Planning a wedding comes with a million decisions, and choosing a photographer is one of the biggest ones. Most couples compare price, style, and availability, but there are a lot of behind-the-scenes realities that rarely get explained upfront.

Not because photographers are hiding anything, but because couples don’t always know what to ask.

So here it is. The honest stuff. The things that matter more than Pinterest boards or photo counts, and that will directly impact how your wedding day feels and how your photos turn out.

1. Why Hours Matter More Than Photo Count

Your wedding day will go by fast. Faster than you expect.

That’s why coverage hours matter far more than how many photos are listed in a package. Without enough time - or built-in buffer time - the day can start to feel rushed, and that pressure shows up in both the experience and the images.

I always send my couples a mock photo timeline based on a detailed questionnaire. This timeline acts as a road map of how long things realistically take on my end. And here’s something many people don’t realize:

If you only have one photographer, getting-ready photos are split evenly between the couple. If hair and makeup run late (which is extremely common), we have to shift or sacrifice something. Nothing is wrong - it’s just math and time.

A few real-world examples:

Getting into a corset or lace-up dress will never take five minutes.
Family photos take longer than expected. A good rule of thumb is to count every combination you want and double it - that’s the number of minutes you’ll be standing there taking portraits.
If you want to attend cocktail hour, keep family photo lists tight. Extended family adds time quickly. & Doing a 1st look helps!

When you budget enough hours and allow breathing room, you get to actually enjoy your day instead of racing through it.

2. Why Shooting Together Helps With Editing Consistency

There’s a reason my main shooter and second shooter stay together for most moments, and it has nothing to do with redundancy.

It’s about consistency.

Shooting together ensures:

Every moment is captured from multiple angles
Your gallery has visual continuity
Movement and candid moments stay cohesive

Often, the main shooter is directing movement, prompts, or positioning (sometimes even coordinating with video), while the second shooter captures the candid reactions happening within that moment. One is creating the structure, the other is documenting the emotion inside it.

This approach is how albums stay visually consistent instead of feeling pieced together.

3. Why Sunset Timing Changes Everything

Timing is everything - especially when it comes to light.

The general rule I recommend is setting your ceremony 1.5–2 hours before sunset. That window gives us flexibility if things run behind (hair and makeup, ceremony start time, family delays - all very normal).

Without that buffer, especially if you skip a first look, your couple portraits may end up happening in the dark. Yes, flash and lighting can be added, but flash photography has a very different feel than soft natural light.

So ask yourself:
What do you want hanging on your wall forever?

The photo with Aunt Linda during cocktail hour
or
The photo of you and your partner soaking in sunset together?

There’s no wrong answer, but the timing determines which one gets priority.

4. Why Experience Beats Gear Every Time

Anyone can buy a camera. Anyone can press a button.

What you’re paying for is experience.

Knowing where the light will be, how to move people naturally, how to prompt emotion, how to anticipate moments before they happen, and how to bring it all together in editing with a consistent artistic vision.

Experience is:

Finding the right location in five minutes
Adjusting when timelines shift
Knowing how to handle harsh sun, wind, or rain
Creating images that feel intentional, not accidental

Gear helps. Experience makes the difference.

5. Why Sneak Peeks Are Not “Easy”

Sneak peeks are not just a quick export.

To deliver them the next day, the process looks like this:

Download and back up files to a second hard drive
Import into Lightroom
Cull thousands of images down to a highlight set
Decide on the editing style for your day
Edit in Lightroom
Export to Photoshop for actual retouching
Re-import for black and white versions
Export high-res and social-size JPEGs
Upload everything so it’s easy to download and share

This usually means getting up at 4–5am the next morning so couples can post by noon. It’s worth it, but it’s definitely not instant.

6. Why Cheap Packages Can Cost More Emotionally

This isn’t about budget shaming, it’s about expectations.

If you want:

Multiple first looks
Flat-lay details
Full & extended family portraits
Time to attend cocktail hour
Coverage of reception details and candid moments

…but only book minimal hours with one shooter, the day can feel like a marathon.

There’s no breathing room. Every setup takes time - gathering people, positioning, directing, adjusting light, capturing multiple expressions and angles. And if there’s only one photographer, they can’t be in two places at once.

For example:
While family and couple portraits are happening during cocktail hour, no one is photographing the appetizers, signature drinks, or Uncle Larry dominating the giant Jenga set.

Coverage decisions don’t just affect photos, they affect how relaxed your day feels.

7. Why Not Every Wedding Should Look the Same

Every couple is different. Every wedding has different priorities.

Your photos should look like your day, not a preset.

That’s why I tailor my editing style and approach to each couple’s colors, season, and energy. If your wedding is calm and intimate, your gallery will feel that way. If it’s loud and wild, that energy shows up too.

One important truth:
If you’re not naturally candid, your photos won’t magically look candid.

Choose a style that aligns with your personality. When everything matches, the photographer, the timeline, the priorities - the final gallery feels effortless and honest.

Final Thought

The best wedding photography experience isn’t about checking boxes. It’s about time, intention, and trust.

When you understand how these pieces work together, you’re able to make decisions that protect both your memories and your experience.

And that’s what lasts long after the cake is gone.

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